Jun
6

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Glams,

Whether you’ve been forced to drop your little one off at preschool before 8 a.m. due to a 9 a.m. Monday morning meeting or decided to take a much-needed weekend getaway minus the kiddies, us moms have all dealt with #MomGuilt. My guilt typically kicks into high gear either when I have business travel, or when I’m unable to either take or pick my son up from school due to a number of reasons, but more often than not, the inability to wrap up a meeting at the planned time. Those have and continue to be my two biggest triggers!

Despite the fact that I’m still dealing with #MomGuilt, I’ve at least carved out and embraced some “universal truths” that have helped me deal with the times where I’ve felt guilty for being a “career mom,” guilty for going out for an evening of cocktails with my other half or even guilty for deciding to cuddle up and read a magazine instead of sitting on my family room floor for hours playing cars and trucks with my son.

1. It’s OK to feel guilt, just don’t let it completely consume you
   What I’ve learned is that it would be complete BS for us to say that we are never going to feel guilt at some point in our role as busy moms. However, my KEY to dealing with it is not to wallow in self-pity, but instead to own it and work to push through it. It’s a part of the life that we live as busy moms. There will be moments that we may miss, but missing those moments doesn’t make us any less of a loving mom than those moms who have the flexibility to never miss anything that their children are involved in.
2. When your spending time, be completely present
   Put the iPhones and iPads down and get into the moment with your child. Ensure that your little one or “big one” for that matter, knows that you are there and are in the moment. That email or Instagram post can wait. When you’ve committed to spend time, be sure that you are doing just that. This is one of the tips that I’ve definitely grew to master. When I’m hanging out with my son, I’m doing just that. I’m not focused on posting to social media or checking my emails. I am in the moment with him and because of this I’ve gotten so much more out of all of the time that we spend together.
3. Having “Mommy Time” can only make you a stronger, happier mom
   As moms, we typically over commit and have trouble using the word No. However, when it comes to your “me time,” realize that those moments can only enhance you as a mom. If you’re overly tired and are in need of a break, your attitude will reflect back on your child. It’s important to realize that you shouldn’t have guilt around the need to recharge in order to ultimately be an even stronger, and definitely more present mom.
4. Celebrate and encourage your fellows moms
   You Glams know how I feel about the “mommy circle,” right? With that said, make it a priority to support and remind a mom who you know is struggling with #MomGuilt of the importance of her role and the fact that she is doing what is ultimately going to benefit her household. I am a firm believer of giving out positive energy and this is definitely one of those instances where you have to push the positive vibes out to your fellows moms. We have to remind each other of our roles, including its importance. Help a mother to unleash her guilt or at least help empower her to deal with those feelings that sometimes tend to creep in.

Glams, I would love to hear how you deal with #MomGuilt. Any tips you can share?

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